Q.5 Explain the evolution of family structure in the past three decades in Pakistan.
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Answer:
In the by gone days, multiple
generations comprising parents, their children and grand children would live
under a single roof. The oldest male member of the family was considered the head
of the family
with the right
to lay down the
rules and arbitrate disputes.
Grandparents had the responsibility of teaching the children their mother
tongue, manners and etiquette. In this way a strong bond with our culture was
developed.
Taking just one example, in this
modern era many women are working outside homes; in a joint family if some
young mothers are career oriented other members of the family, like grandmother
and aunts, look after the young children, giving them opportunity to pursue
their career. But in nuclear family this is not possible and young women often
have to sacrifice their career in order to take care of the child.
Another reason why the joint
family system is losing its significance is the belief that children raised in
a joint family are shyer and lack confidence due to the authoritative behaviour
of their elders; they are more suppressed and are hardly able to make their own
decisions due to more dependency, as opposed to children raised in nuclear
families.
Even today, as in the past, the
joint family system help us to learn interpersonal relationship and living in a
society. By living together the kids feel closer to their grandparents, uncles,
aunts and cousins; they understand them more and establish a trusting
relationship, which is not possible when they meet occasionally. The joint
family system contributes to our security, health and prosperity, and could
help us to live a less stressful life.
The reason being, in joint family
we have a lot of people around to help us and to share our sorrows and joys,
and we can lean upon them in times of trouble. But in this modern era the
nuclear family system is the call of the day. Most joint families have broken
into pieces and independent and single families have emerged. Now in place of
joint family we have a “Micro Family”, where there is father, mother and their
children. As the children grow up and get married they move out and set
separate homes.
The main cause of young adults
breaking away from their families is a desire for freedom, which is in no way a
bad idea at all. We all want to live independently; hence, in order to avoid
interference and uninvited opinions the younger generation prefers moving out.
When the parents and their adult children are unable to get along well and
disagree on different issues, nuclear families are formed. To a certain extent
we can say that this change has come about because in this age of competition
everyone is in pursuit of material pleasure and success, and nobody is bothered
about anybody.
Though living separately may
bring lots of inconvenience, people seem to prefer nuclear families. Every
individual has certain flaws and qualities in his or her personality. Your
parents can bear with any weaknesses you may have but your other relatives
would not, no matter how close they are to you. Eventually your parents also
begin to criticize you, sometimes just to calm the other people. In a joint
family sometimes differences of opinion become so big that it is even beyond
the control of the elders to settle the disputes, whereas in nuclear family
where there is less interference of others, fewer problems arise.
A nuclear life makes you
independent and enables you to bring up your children the way you want without
much interference. It is exciting to explore experiment and establish a living
set-up on one's own. Every person needs privacy, some time to be alone, but being
a part of a joint family sometimes it is not possible to sit alone and ponder.
Interference of other members in some personal matter is never desirable, but
in a joint family, living together it is not always possible to keep one’s affairs
private.
As many families live together they
often start highlighting and even exploiting others' weaknesses, which also
create political arena in the household. Most parents tend to always keep their
children under their domination even when they have come of age and are in a
position to take charge of their lives. I personally believe that there comes a
time when parents have to really “let go” and let the grown up children face
realities of life and make decisions for themselves.
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